tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4270739423727419862.post8114859921577361471..comments2023-08-20T03:15:59.971-07:00Comments on The View From Treesong's: Rain, Paperwork and Confusiontreesonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09364847483878018809noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4270739423727419862.post-86616373624573046882010-06-05T11:59:09.782-07:002010-06-05T11:59:09.782-07:00I have started this post three times now and alway...I have started this post three times now and always end up whining about my problems taking care of my Mom with the "help" of siblings. I think I will just let you know that you are not alone. There are many of us out here that are caring for parents and at times feel like it's a thankless job. Hang in there, we're all in this together....SusanUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07984730519371646988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4270739423727419862.post-49836132167267191552010-06-05T07:33:43.244-07:002010-06-05T07:33:43.244-07:00Yes, if you are trying to talk to your dad about h...Yes, if you are trying to talk to your dad about his future care, do it on a lucid day ,before it gets worse. B. <br />I would also like to say my dad and my hubbies dad both had mini strokes which left them belligerent and they never were before. You could never tell what they were going to do next . I wonder if it can all be done with the docs help ...the power of attorney to you. Ask his doctors or nurses , I think they would know.<br />Thank goodness for folks like Mrs Mills.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4270739423727419862.post-33798748875264663672010-06-05T07:30:36.251-07:002010-06-05T07:30:36.251-07:00Yes, if you are trying to talk to your dad about h...Yes, if you are trying to talk to your dad about his future care, do it on a lucid day ,before it gets worse. B. <br />I would also like to say my dad and my hubbies dad both had mini strokes which left them belligerent and they never were before. You could never tell what they were going to do next . I wonder if it can all be done with the docs help ...the power of attorney to you. Ask his doctors or nurses , I think they would know.<br />Thank goodness for folks like Mrs Mills.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4270739423727419862.post-5142977743000437232010-06-05T07:03:07.359-07:002010-06-05T07:03:07.359-07:00What is sad is that your siblings have chosen not ...What is sad is that your siblings have chosen not to help you with your father's care.<br /><br />My two sisters and I went through this same thing with our mother, but we were able to split the load three ways which gave each of us a break from time to time and yielded a much better quality of life for her in her final years.<br /><br />Take heart in the fact that he has at least one child who is performing their Godly duties out of love and obedience.<br /><br />Because of your loving service to your father, in just this one case his bills were paid properly, his pills were saved and his Doctor appointments will be kept. <br /><br />His declining years will be tough on you, but God always honors those who do his will.<br /><br />Imagine the mess he would be in if you hadn't done these things for him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4270739423727419862.post-69278401495928153612010-06-04T20:53:00.869-07:002010-06-04T20:53:00.869-07:00First let me say how much I enjoy reading your blo...First let me say how much I enjoy reading your blog, it's one of my favourites and I always learn something from it. Hopefully I can be of some use to you now.<br /><br />I'm a Registered Practical Nurse working in Long Term care with residents who have behaviours like your Dad. I'm sorry to say but it gets worse.<br /><br />I would suggest you call his MD and have your Dad take a Mini Mental Exam (not sure if it's called that where you live) to determine if he is still competent to manage his own affairs. In Ontario, someone a diagnosis of with what appears to be Alzheimers-like dementia would no longer be able to write cheques or cancel their medical apointments, their affairs would be handled by their Power of Attorney. <br /><br />FYI, he may become more resistive/agressive as his disease progresses. Also, he may start to leave the house at night without telling anyone, a small loud alarm at the top of the door where hc can't see it/can't reach it would be helpful. Hide the car keys.<br /><br />It also would be a good idea to make an apt with his MD for a med review, you should be included, if not at least write down everything he is doing lately and make sure the MD knows about it. <br /><br />If this behaviour is a sudden change it may be a Urinary Tract Infection, this can create some pretty bizzare behavour, have his urine tested to be on the safe side.<br /><br />I'm so sorry you are going through this, I know it isn't easy and it's a lot harder when it's someon you love. Your family are in my prayers.<br /><br />Mrs MillsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4270739423727419862.post-60851225906043051352010-06-04T14:18:09.574-07:002010-06-04T14:18:09.574-07:00God Bless. I know the pains of a care giver. If yo...God Bless. I know the pains of a care giver. If you have the need to talk you have my e mail.<br />TonyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4270739423727419862.post-52689111581465394682010-06-04T14:06:36.450-07:002010-06-04T14:06:36.450-07:00Thank B! I have called the doctor's office con...Thank B! I have called the doctor's office concerning his behavior today. The nurse said it could be further deterioration or a mini stroke. He has an appointment Monday for a B12 shot & I suggested I come with him because I have things to do in town. (LIE!) I'm the main contact on all his forms so I don't know what more I can do.<br /><br />I'm praying he'll wake up in better shape. Thanks again, Treesong<br /><br />Just went through his pill minder and pill bag. Nothing amiss thus far.<br /><br />The nurse I talked to said he's possibly had another mini stroke but said they couldn't see him today. It would be a battle to get him in there today anyway.<br /><br />His comments about the toilet paper were his typical dry humor and he has seemed fine lately.treesonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09364847483878018809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4270739423727419862.post-20107704267987376462010-06-04T13:56:13.474-07:002010-06-04T13:56:13.474-07:00Make sure you tell the docs....it could be one of ...Make sure you tell the docs....it could be one of his meds is causing the confusion or the lack of one of them. This seems sudden, relatively speaking. You need to be in on all the doc visits and stuff he does like the bills from now on. Make sure your phone number is at least a second contact number for appts. if not the first.<br /> I wondered the other day when you told about the toilet paper if it was confusion or him just having a good time with you. And yes being a caregiver is hard on a person...vent here, we will listen and advise....sometimes a second non partisan opinion helps clear things up or helps you see something you didn't before. Know we are here as we can be. hugs B.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4270739423727419862.post-28287914566617150342010-06-04T13:33:59.913-07:002010-06-04T13:33:59.913-07:00Thanks Hermit Jim, Stephanie and Debbio for your c...Thanks Hermit Jim, Stephanie and Debbio for your comments. I've come to tears twice today, mostly because I know his mind is slipping away.<br /><br />Unless you've been a caregiver you can never fully appreciate how much it means to be able to vent or cry or whatever to someone else.<br /><br />Dad is taking a nap now - I think. Don't want to tippy toe down the hall to check on him for fear of what I'll discover. We managed a walk when the rain let up and four times he asked when he was going to see his sister - who he called my his mother's name. When we got home he said we needed to go to town to his P.O. box because Sweetie had not remembered to while he was at the doctor's!!<br /><br />It's pointless to disagree or say he's forgotten or wrong because he gets angry. So I feel like I'm walking a tightrope while watching for small cuts in the line and being shot at from below.<br /><br />Right now I hope he sleeps so I can nap. If not I told Sweetie he's got to keep alert while I rest. He's been so tired the last couple days that he's slept 12 or more hours. <br /><br />What a crew, one dementia/heart patient; one emphazema patient and one MS patient. God help us all.treesonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09364847483878018809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4270739423727419862.post-87059946084720746882010-06-04T11:52:44.704-07:002010-06-04T11:52:44.704-07:00Many hugs! It's hard being a caregiver. Just...Many hugs! It's hard being a caregiver. Just make sure to take small breaks here and there for yourself, otherwise you can't be there for your dad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4270739423727419862.post-7463084091697196362010-06-04T10:53:38.064-07:002010-06-04T10:53:38.064-07:00Even if you never get a thank you or atta girl you...Even if you never get a thank you or atta girl you are doing the right thing and God will bless you for that. I am so glad your dad is there with you two. A few stamps is a small price to pay to save a lot of money. <br />I really enjoy reading about your life and prepping and you and sweetie and your dad and your dear sweet neighbors. Keep it up.debbieohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16591676862695285439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4270739423727419862.post-18980546216362688532010-06-04T10:45:39.422-07:002010-06-04T10:45:39.422-07:00Guess it comes with age...! My Mom is having more ...Guess it comes with age...! My Mom is having more of those days as of late.<br /><br />In Mom's case, I'm more concerned about her losing things, like her glasses and credit card!<br /><br />Just have to remain aware of what they are doing without them being made to feel helpless, I guess!HermitJimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13631580830147175636noreply@blogger.com